As much as I agree ,about 30% , of the story with the writer, I also have to put into consideration that the writer did overlook very important aspects of the ideal Kenya wife. In today's households, it's very hard for women to juggle between being mothers, wives, CEO's and but not limited to Nobel peace prize winners but we found a balance.
Yes, we do need help, who doesn't. We hired house helps just like we're are hired by our company's, or hire other professional for our company. Every one has a set of skills that can be utilised to help the economy and house help skills are very important.
Yes, it's true that women should always know what's happening in their household's and as a matter of fact we do know. If am not in a position to pour tea in my husband's cup when he gets home it doesn't mean am mean or bad wife. Please know that we do all this things that you seem not to know. Stop with this generalisation of Kenyan wives, point out the one's you know are that lazy, not all of us. Point to note is that today good Kenyan men a.k.a. our husbands are understanding and pour themselves tea.
Asking for help and accepting help is not a sign of weakness. Times change as so should we.
The other thing I strongly disagree is having Kenyan wives being portrayed as negligent, waking up late, can't make breakfast, couch potatoes and so on. That's really unfair and uninformed. Kenyan wives, especially one's with young babies wake up very early, help their kids prepare for school, they stay up late to keep or help them with their homework or study, sometimes make dinner if we get home early. My mother is a Kenyan wife and she did that. And just because we don't iron clothes in the morning as the ''ideal wife'' clothes are ironed and put in closets, whether weekly or the night before. We're more organised and plan in advance then doing things last minute like the ideal wives. So please, before you put all your eggs in one tray, I highly suggest you check the bad eggs and throw them out.
So I've missed the comfortable couch in my home, why can't I relax on it again after a long day of work? Who said that talks between husbands and wives are only in bed, most of all the reason we have a common sitting area is for us to bond as a family. So yes, we're wrong for sitting on the couch with our husbands, we should invite the children and the house helps after they finish their work and share the day's events, we'll correct that. We need family together.
Yes, the Bible does teach us to be submissive and the same verse of the Bible also teaches men to love their wives as Christ loved his church. You omitted that part, thought should finish it for you. Instead of going out with the boys or mistresses and leaving us behind to be both the mother and father for our kids those nights/ days, get yourself home and love your wife. Instead of them coming home drunk and singing and worse battering their wives, cats. watchmen and kids, stay up late and read a bed time story for your kids. Instead of abardoning your parental responsibility and leaving us as single mothers (also fathers). Be the father or mother. Instead of divorcing us for your mistress, come home and work things out. Find a balance, go out with friends but realise like we do, family comes first.
Thank you for realising that Kenyan women are ideal wives, and for your next article on Kenyan wives, be precise and say some wives, because what you described sounds like a global problem not a Kenyan women problem. All in all, we appreciate your efforts in trying to enlighten some wives, but we all do what's right according to our circumstances. We can't all fit in the universal ideal of anything, whether as ideal wives, brothers, sisters, friends, girl/boyfriends, mothers, fathers, uncles, aunts, neighbours, and or professionals. Be the best you can be in all situations.
Conclusion:
Music can in turn be inspiring. The lyrics to Nickleback's song ''if today was your last day'' will be my parting shot. Each day is a gift, not a given right. Leave no stones unturned, and leave your fears behind, try to take the path less travelled by and the first step you take is the longest stride. Ask yourself, if today was your last day, would you say you have been the best you can be?
I am striving to say that.
Yes, we do need help, who doesn't. We hired house helps just like we're are hired by our company's, or hire other professional for our company. Every one has a set of skills that can be utilised to help the economy and house help skills are very important.
Yes, it's true that women should always know what's happening in their household's and as a matter of fact we do know. If am not in a position to pour tea in my husband's cup when he gets home it doesn't mean am mean or bad wife. Please know that we do all this things that you seem not to know. Stop with this generalisation of Kenyan wives, point out the one's you know are that lazy, not all of us. Point to note is that today good Kenyan men a.k.a. our husbands are understanding and pour themselves tea.
Asking for help and accepting help is not a sign of weakness. Times change as so should we.
The other thing I strongly disagree is having Kenyan wives being portrayed as negligent, waking up late, can't make breakfast, couch potatoes and so on. That's really unfair and uninformed. Kenyan wives, especially one's with young babies wake up very early, help their kids prepare for school, they stay up late to keep or help them with their homework or study, sometimes make dinner if we get home early. My mother is a Kenyan wife and she did that. And just because we don't iron clothes in the morning as the ''ideal wife'' clothes are ironed and put in closets, whether weekly or the night before. We're more organised and plan in advance then doing things last minute like the ideal wives. So please, before you put all your eggs in one tray, I highly suggest you check the bad eggs and throw them out.
So I've missed the comfortable couch in my home, why can't I relax on it again after a long day of work? Who said that talks between husbands and wives are only in bed, most of all the reason we have a common sitting area is for us to bond as a family. So yes, we're wrong for sitting on the couch with our husbands, we should invite the children and the house helps after they finish their work and share the day's events, we'll correct that. We need family together.
Yes, the Bible does teach us to be submissive and the same verse of the Bible also teaches men to love their wives as Christ loved his church. You omitted that part, thought should finish it for you. Instead of going out with the boys or mistresses and leaving us behind to be both the mother and father for our kids those nights/ days, get yourself home and love your wife. Instead of them coming home drunk and singing and worse battering their wives, cats. watchmen and kids, stay up late and read a bed time story for your kids. Instead of abardoning your parental responsibility and leaving us as single mothers (also fathers). Be the father or mother. Instead of divorcing us for your mistress, come home and work things out. Find a balance, go out with friends but realise like we do, family comes first.
Thank you for realising that Kenyan women are ideal wives, and for your next article on Kenyan wives, be precise and say some wives, because what you described sounds like a global problem not a Kenyan women problem. All in all, we appreciate your efforts in trying to enlighten some wives, but we all do what's right according to our circumstances. We can't all fit in the universal ideal of anything, whether as ideal wives, brothers, sisters, friends, girl/boyfriends, mothers, fathers, uncles, aunts, neighbours, and or professionals. Be the best you can be in all situations.
Conclusion:
Music can in turn be inspiring. The lyrics to Nickleback's song ''if today was your last day'' will be my parting shot. Each day is a gift, not a given right. Leave no stones unturned, and leave your fears behind, try to take the path less travelled by and the first step you take is the longest stride. Ask yourself, if today was your last day, would you say you have been the best you can be?
I am striving to say that.
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